Negative People

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(I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to this scenario...)

 SCENARIO
A friend confronts you and tells you that according to PEOPLE 
you are like this (NEGATIVE 1) and like that (NEGATIVE 2), how will you respond?

  ANSWER
My response will be to ask, “What about you, do you feel the same way?” 

This way we can start a conversation, we can communicate.
" Let me know you, let me know your thoughts about me… 
Let us not talk about what OTHERS are saying about me… 
let’s just talk about you and me". 

This way, we can settle whatever differences we have and work on our relationship.

I’ve learned early in life that I will never ever be able to please everyone; 
there will always be people saying something good and something bad about me,
not that they don’t matter because they do, especially if there is something to learn that I may have missed 
or until now, has not learned yet.  

The thing is we ­­can always choose our battle, learn our lessons and move on.

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Comments

  1. Jun DefeoJanuary 7, 2012 at 5:36 AM

    Learn from your critics and hopefully be better... :)

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  2. AnonymousJanuary 8, 2012 at 12:43 AM

    in the end Gemma in life you are only answerable to your self and to your God . all through out of our life we will hear a lot of negative comments about our self , but be very careful who those people who tell you bad stuff . Most people are jealous , jealous of what you have and jealous of what you are capable to do . If they are not going to make me rich in life and in spirit i really don't give a damn of what they say that's my philosophy . To make life drama free don't worry about what they are saying just smile It's like how can you have a positive life if you have a negative mind and I do believe in that .

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  3. Maria Gemma Defeo-HilotinJanuary 8, 2012 at 1:44 PM

    Great advises! thanks! :))
    Check out more weekly Q&A at CATCH IT page! Thanks for reading and will look forward to more comments! :))

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  4. LudeeJanuary 15, 2012 at 5:51 PM

    Well if your friend is a true friend, no need for him or her to confront you about people telling negative things about you, because if that friend knows you deep inside then she or he will defend you if those people say negative things which aren't true about you...or just ignore it...and if it's true your friend should be the first person on earth to know your weaknesses...you can't please everybody...and besides its not essential to please people not unless you owe them big time...

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  5. LudeeJanuary 15, 2012 at 6:05 PM

    As long as you know yourself and you have that sincerity in your heart and always have good intention...then you are at peace with yourself...don't invest emotions to people who don't deserve it...not unless you have a switch personality or kind a lost then that something you really have to work out with yourself...seriously.

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    1. Gemma Defeo-HilotinJanuary 15, 2012 at 6:35 PM

      Great point there buds! "Don't invest emotions to people who don't deserve it" - I love this, we do have the power to choose, to say NO, and to identify who our real friends are! Great advise for sure a lot will learn from this! Thanks! :)

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  6. Eymard in FinanceJanuary 28, 2012 at 6:06 AM

    That's the right way to deal with negatives. Communication is a must to make the relationship stronger. Very informative post. =)

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