Say IT!

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"Show what you feel in relationships. If you feel like crying, cry your eyes out! When you feel like laughing, laugh your eyes out. Scream when you want to scream. Roll on the floor. Surprise everybody!"
"Please don’t wait to communicate your feelings!"

This came from Leo Buscaglia's book Living, Loving and Learning.
(click his name to know more about it.)

For now, you would have known that I am a fan! Yes, I am!

Just Say IT!

I hate it when my husband will not talk to me because I did something wrong! I do not know why he needs to pamper the pain!!!

I am his exact opposite because I just simply communicate what I feel, well, tactless at times but, I need the communication part, so that when I’m done with it, then it’s done. 

Just LET ME KNOW!

There are people who are afraid to communicate their feelings to the point that instead of directly telling "what's bugging them" with the particular person; they would rather spread it out! This is so funny! 

If we are all here to learn our lessons and to grow, then we need people to help us out. One sure way to do that is if we, ourselves, are willing to directly tell a person how we are feeling; and through that maybe we can ignite change, in a way. 

Don't keep it to yourself!

Sometimes we are conscious of what we are doing, but you know what? Most of the times, we are not. 

I am guilty of that most of the time especially to my husband! Maybe, because I know he is kind and will readily forgive (after hours of being in his cage). 

But, communication is the only way for every relationship to thrive. No one will ever know what one is feeling if you will not say it! 

  Just LET ME KNOW!

Say it! Make them feel it! Just please talk!!!

Otherwise, you will be pampering your own pain; and the one that caused you pain, does not have any inkling what has happened (for it maybe unconsciously done, or maybe consciously done) and you will never know too, unless you are willing to put your heart out and communicate honestly, openly and with full trust.

This 2012, let’s be willing to NOT WAIT and just say what we need to say, because in saying so, you’ll free yourself from the pain, worries or hate; because in saying so, you know you’ll free that person from his or her pain, worries or hate too; and because in saying so, love may bloom. 

Just Say IT!


Clear?


-day 12-

Comments

  1. Len LambertDecember 26, 2011 at 1:34 AM

    LOL! So true!

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  2. AnonymousJanuary 14, 2012 at 9:21 AM

    True w/ me!:) - janet

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  3. AnonymousJanuary 14, 2012 at 9:22 AM

    Never close your lips to those whom you have open your hearts- C Dickens - cathy

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  4. AnonymousJanuary 14, 2012 at 9:22 AM

    Super like gems!! :) i love all your blogs..don't stop writting..anyways,have a blessed and hearty new year!! :)- jan

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  5. ROMELOFebruary 3, 2012 at 5:11 PM

    It's quite common and I don't know why people prefer not to talk about their problems. If people can talk about everything that bothers them then this world would be a better place to live in.

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  6. BrambleberryFebruary 3, 2012 at 5:33 PM

    I think honesty is a great thing to someone you value. :D

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  7. The Wandering LionFebruary 3, 2012 at 5:49 PM

    Just say it Christmas, Valentines o kahit ano pa mang araw. :)

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  8. YANIFebruary 3, 2012 at 6:08 PM

    Reality bites! I am so in need to communicate my feelings most especially to my bf right now :(

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  9. Edmaration etcFebruary 3, 2012 at 7:22 PM

    What a nice food for the brain.

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  10. lakwatseroFebruary 3, 2012 at 7:26 PM

    I agree! If you keep your feelings bottled up, sooner or later you're gonna explode and it will be a lot worse.

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  11. joyFebruary 3, 2012 at 7:55 PM

    Oh yes! i always say what i feel, or else i'll get a heart attack :)

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  12. Ed ZafraFebruary 4, 2012 at 12:12 AM

    You can't solve a problem without confronting it so if miscommunication caused it, you definitely need to say your take on the issue. Say it and get relieved.

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  13. Reymund OlivaFebruary 4, 2012 at 12:21 AM

    thank for sharing this gemz

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  14. violy vallesterFebruary 4, 2012 at 12:36 AM

    I so love your blog so inspiring to read!! Thanks do much for sharing your thoughts... Once upon a time (hihi) I told a guy I like him.. And he doesn't want me.. So at least I know instead of me waiting forever! At least I can move on no matter how painful it is... ;)

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  15. enzoFebruary 4, 2012 at 12:38 AM

    Oftentimes, that's what I do. I always pamper my feelings inside rather than saying it aloud. But this is something I hate about myself ---- I just frown and don't say anything.

    I know I have to practice what exactly you wrote here. Just say it and let go of it.

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  16. Leah.February 4, 2012 at 12:45 AM

    Tama yun. Say it.. if you have something to say, spill it out. Good or bad, wag itago. Say it, but with respect. Dyan nagsisimula ang miscommunication..

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  17. Gil Camporazo | RandomThoughts!February 4, 2012 at 1:34 AM

    Miscommunication is dangerous. Keeping silent does not always give you the benefit you want to. So express it to be heard and to avoid being misunderstood.

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  18. markpogiFebruary 4, 2012 at 2:04 AM

    Thanks for sharing. This one is a good read. =)

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  19. Julie. --February 4, 2012 at 2:37 AM

    I totally agree with this. I hate people who doesn't talk and expect you to read their minds.

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  20. Traveling MorionFebruary 4, 2012 at 5:30 AM

    Talk and love, lets spread the love bug, happy hearts mant;)

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  21. MaryJane TauyanFebruary 4, 2012 at 5:35 AM

    thats the secret of having a good relationship! don't sleep when your angry with someone. coz you only live once! you don't know what will happen the next day. xx

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    1. Jenny O'TooleFebruary 4, 2012 at 10:50 AM

      Absolutely! The secret of the relationship is open channel of communication. Proven and tested by me. Happy weekend pals.

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  22. yuukiFebruary 4, 2012 at 5:56 AM

    i have yet to master communicating what i want, tama bec i always keep it first to myself pag sumabog ako sobra-sobra...will definitely keep this in mind, thanks!

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  23. SioneeFebruary 4, 2012 at 8:20 AM

    hahaha. JUST SAY IT- we're oppposite naman .. because I don't talk and my other half is the talkative one. Especially when I am angry. I avoid talking when I'm angry so that I won't say words that I'll regret later. And to avoid cussing..ha haha

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  24. AJFebruary 4, 2012 at 9:49 AM

    I'm a very shy person so I have problems in just saying it. I hope I overcome it and be more verbally expressive.

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  25. Tess ChancellorFebruary 4, 2012 at 11:55 AM

    If I am mad ,I don't talk to hubby ,I keep quiet ,the reason why? if we are angry ,we tend to say something that we will regret afterweard.so the best thing to do is shut your mouth off until you are cool enough to talk things over. My hubby don't like silent treatment but he learned to accept it.I speak up when I am ready but if not don't force me or you 'll not gonna like what will come out from my mouth.

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  26. EarlieFebruary 4, 2012 at 12:36 PM

    So funny yet so true....Hit me with these creaks. Oh how I love to just say what i feel but that's not just so easy for me.

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  27. Blair VillanuevaFebruary 4, 2012 at 6:35 PM

    totally AGREE!

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  28. Journeys and TravelsFebruary 4, 2012 at 6:57 PM

    this is mostly what others have missed in their relationships. lamentable but true

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  29. ralphFebruary 4, 2012 at 8:16 PM

    open and good communication is needed for a long lasting relationship... Yahweh bless.

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  30. chrisairFebruary 5, 2012 at 3:32 AM

    wow, we are opposite, lol

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  31. ChristiaFebruary 6, 2012 at 2:35 AM

    although this is ideal, and I know it is right, I end up just not talking when I feel bad.

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  32. rjs mamaFebruary 8, 2012 at 1:36 AM

    so true, when i don't let out my feelings i have difficulty in breathing. so i'll definitely say what i feel because i don't want to die yet lol

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