Gem's Insights

I would like to believe that my experiences are simply because of pure luck or coincidences but are they really? I was wanting to eat Goldilocks polvoron, really simple story, lol! I asked my husband about, maybe, asking a friend to buy it for me, since she left to visit her family in the Philippines. Great timing, right? But, decided not to. The next day, guess, what happened? I visited one of the schools, I was assigned to, and was greeted by one of the Filipino teachers working there, out of the blue, she pulled out a plastic bag full of goodies and gave me Goldilocks polvoron!  Did I attract it? Mmm... Here's more: I was so sleepy and decided to sleep but I was afraid somebody might call me, so I turned my cellphone to a silent mode. Just minutes after I went to bed, somebody knocked on the door looking for me! How lucky could I get? If there are no coincidences... then, I guess, with just my THOUGHTS I was able to attract the simple Goldilocks polvoron ...

  "The only way that I will ever be great to myself is not what I do to my body but what I do to my mind." - Ramtha from the documentary "What the bleep do we know". Hey, it's all about infinite possibilities, how powerful our mind is and how our thoughts can become our reality. I remember being scared of just the thought of "infinite possibilities" - since it also equates to anything can happen...AS IN, anything! Just like an ocean full of possibilities, vast, large, powerful.. scary! I know I can just focus on the positive extremes but knowing there is the negative extreme too can be "goosebumps-maker" indeed! Nonetheless, I think cleansing our thoughts of negativity and addiction matter a lot too! Our bodies are basically the manifestation of our very own thoughts. Our bodies may already be telling us something, and we are still not aware of it, until the last-minute... we may already be feeling its effects but have for...

So, what if after following "..whatever-your-mind-can-conceive-and-believe, it-will-achieve" mindset and just tried to focus on what we want, STILL the result isn't what we want?  What will we do next.. and how come it didn't work? Well, I've just read THE SECRET by Rhonda Byrne book again, and interestingly, my question, just got answered: Quoting from the book, page 146:  Don't become mesmerized by the pictures that have appeared if they are not what you want. Take responsibility for them, make light of them if you can and let them go. Then think new thoughts of what you want, feel them and be grateful that it is done. Now, here's my point of view: Maybe, just maybe, it didn't happen because for a thing to manifest, it actually needs our emotions in it. The feeling of being happy about it.. the feeling of ecstasy.. because we really want it! .. and another rule of the thumb is never to ever let any negative thoughts come into play. No neg...

Since daddy worked abroad we were blessed with high technology toys and gadgets growing up. I just remembered because every time I would drive and need to cross roads, my mind would automatically switch to game mode! Lol! You see, I used to love this Chicken Crossing The Road Game using ATARI then. I would control the chicken's movement so it wouldn't get killed while crossing, the chicken needs to walk past 4 lanes to get a score -mmm, to get the worm at the other side!  credit So,  just to make a connection, it could be that when we are constantly faced with the same challenges everyday, even via online games, we also subconsciously get to actualize it. It no longer matters if it's just a game or the real thing, we react the same to it! The point is REPETITION, VISUALIZATION and MIND CONDITIONING may actually work especially in achieving our goals or achieving our dreams. What do you really want? If, say, we really want to become a millionaire... then we may set up situat...

credit It was September 6, my birthday. Everyone in my family greeted me. But, since, it was a school day, I had to go to school, I couldn't remember anymore what grade level I was when it happened.  All I remember was our homeroom teacher didn't even acknowledge nor reminded the class about my special day. I was hoping someone would remember. (No Facebook then and computers were still very expensive that time). So the whole day, I kept my happy face and happy disposition. At the back of my mind, I was hoping against hope, my teachers and classmates would remember to greet me. End of class, NOBODY did. I felt so downhearted. But I kept myself accountable and responsible for what happened. I knew I should have done something, but didn't.  I allowed fate to take its toll. Lesson learned. The following year, my birthday fell on a school day again. I went to school. Everyone greeted me.  As in everyone! What happened? I TOLD everyone it was my birthday! Starting from the secu...

"C'mon Maria, there is no God! I'm an Atheist. I don't go to church. There is no God!" For the first time, in my entire life, I met an Atheist, in person! I said, how can you not believe in God? There is life, life is God. Yes, he said, if life is God then I believe it, but not God, who is supreme power and directs our lives... Just like Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy or God. There is no God. There is no Santa Claus. There is no Tooth Fairy. He said, I'm not a bad person, I do my best. I give my all. I do what is necessary. I make things happen. But I don't believe in God. I don't have any church. I don't belong to any group. He is a good person. He does his best, he is a kind man. He makes things happen and helps make the world a better place for him and the people around him. Does it matter now, to me, what he does not believe in? Will it matter now, to you, what he does not believe in? Will I try to force him into making him believe there is one? ...

Older Woman: "Come here, I have to tell you something..." Me: "What is?" Older Woman: "You know, he is not liked. Nobody likes him." (referring to one of the bosses) Me: "Mmmm..." Older Woman: "Yeah, like 5 people told me that!" Me: "Mmmm.." Older Woman: "You don't know right? because nobody tells you, but I am telling you because I like you.. and you need to be wary..." Is being "liked" in the workplace important? I am not really into "people should like me" thing. In the workplace, as long as I do my work and do my work well, then that is fine. How I deal with people, though, also matters - nope, it matters a lot! I know I won't be able to please all, and for sure the one (boss) being mentioned, knows that too!  He is simply doing his work, and he is doing his work well. He may not be liked because he wants things done and some people doesn't like that.  Some doesn't want to be b...

Oh my! I am already in  my 129th day! I really can't decide what to write tonight! So, I'll just make some updates as to what's happening with my life nowadays. No one will read this anyway so, I'm taking my risk! Lol! I've enlisted myself to play volleyball and badminton in the Pinoy Tournament here in NM. I am also playing soccer with the Gallup Adult Soccer! ... and who would have thought, I'd be playing again.. that's just it anyway, just for fun! just for exercise purposes, and just to be with new found friends here in New Mexico. I'll be very busy this summer, we have 6 weeks left in the school year; and I can't wait to get things started. I have to start sleeping earlier, 10:30pm, would be best! Good luck to me! What else? I am watching "Maging Sino Ka Man" TV series of Bea and John Lloyd! Lol I am also keeping my fingers crossed for Jessica Sanchez in the American Idol. We also walk during weekdays, thank God for spring time! What m...

The funny thing is I have forgotten how to become really angry. I have forgotten the best way to react when I just hit rock bottom. I have forgotten about what I must be doing or should have done when it hurts. I have forgotten to feel. It has happened too many times, that I am not sure what's happening anymore. It has happened too many times that I am not sure if what I am doing now is the right thing to do. It has happened too many times and now it is happening again.. that, truly, was it fake or real? Funny but I don't feel human at all. I think I have become a robot. A super woman, maybe? Lol! I have to start feeling again, but with the situation now, and how memories just flooded my brain cells again... I am not really sure. The joke may be on me. But it sure feels not right, not humane, and honestly, I cannot even process. Because I know, I cannot change anyone, because I know deep down, it may be the truth - there's nothing I can do. Tears wouldn't fall, I've...

http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears. -Michel de Montaigne PurpleDr... Am I discounting his feelings? My husband worries a lot about things that probably not going to happen. (Chicken Little & the sky falling) For example today I told him we had new neighbors and they had a 13 yo boy and he responded with "that is peeping tom age" I responded like I usually do with head nods. He says that I am discounting his feelings because I think he is over reacting...he thinks he is taking care of his family. Do you think I am being rude? And what do I say to try to express myself w/out making him feel like he does not matter?   Gems Best Answer - Chosen by Asker Best if you can make him relate or share t...

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy  for the rest of your life. -Rita Rudner http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! (I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to the following question...)   QUESTION "What is it like being married?"   ANSWER The first two months were a bliss. After that, I don't know. LOL! Well, it was mainly because, Dennis, needed to leave the country two months after tying the knot! So, my marriage arrangement was different. Every after nine months (Dennis' contract), I would be at the airport to pick him up and then after three months he would be away again. For years it was just in the honeymoon stage and some reality stage. That was our cycle. We were never in the other deep stages until after almost eight years of being married. What is it like being married?   It's like a roller coaster;   It's a kaleidoscop...

http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! Admitting Error clears the Score, And proves you Wiser than before. - Arthur Guiterman   QUESTION "Tell us about grammatical errors in writing.."   ANSWER Honestly, at times, I will just write and write and unfortunately,  fail to be consistent with my grammatical tenses!  For example, if my story covers the past, then,  I have to make sure that ALL my verbs including my to-be verbs are ALL written in the past tense. *rules are rules, right?! BUT sometimes I will really just publish a blog post  without really going in-depth proofreading!  After a while, I will read it again and EDIT mistakes. Yeah, not a good practice at all! RESOLUTION:Double check, double check, double check, prior to publishing! … and THANKS to readers who are not very “Grammar-MUST-be-correct!” conscious for “simply” understanding  what I am talking about and hopefully still...

Money won't create success, the freedom to make it will. - Nelson Mandela http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! (I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to the following question...)   QUESTION "If you win a million dollars, will you quit your job?"    ANSWER   Winning a million dollars will definitely achieve my money goal (see Outside the Box for related story)...   ... will I quit my job?  NO. I love my job (I was an inclusion teacher 6 months ago, now I'm facilitating IEPs in three of the district's schools - see Believing is Seeing for the story) and I tha nk God for the opportunity!(... and yes, money won't be able to buy it too :))  But   ... for sure I will be very enthusiastic, over-to-the-top-glad and super-duper-elated to have the money -the million dollars OMG!!! - to save, to invest, to use and to give :)      (Best if as I a...

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. - Suzanne Somers http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! (I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to the following question...)   QUESTION "Why is it difficult to forgive?"    ANSWER   Depending on where you are coming from.. … because you have not yet found it in yourself to love.. again …because you still need time to heal …because you feel the need to resist, resent and revenge …because you still feel the pain …because you feel it isn’t time …because you are being enveloped with fear …because you are scared And until you forgive, you will forever be under the power of that person who hurt you. Until you forgive, your path won’t be clear. Until you forgive, you won’t find joy in your heart. Until you forgive, it is hard to bless and be blessed. Hard as it is, let us turn to Jesus. Let us learn from his mercy and love. .....

C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s !  (I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my "question" to the following question...)   QUESTION "Is destiny a matter of chance? or a matter of choice?"  (Thanks Ludee for the idea!)   ANSWERED WITH A QUESTION  (will answer after comments :) When I was 1 st year in college, it was our vacation then, I told Mommy that I would like to work. I said that aloud, “I would like to work, but I’ll not look for work, I’ll let work come to me!” She reminded me that for me to be able to fulfill my goal, I needed to do something about it!. I said, persistently, “No, I want to work, but I’ll let work find me!”. She let me be. The next day, my cousin came, looking for me, why? her mom, a bank manager, was looking for someone to help her do some income tax filing. I told mommy, “See, work found me!” I...

http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! (I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here are my answers to the following questions...)   QUESTIONS "What are your thoughts on giving?", "What is real giving?"   ANSWERS "What are your thoughts on giving? "Givers gain - takers lose" "The hand that gives - gathers" "As you sow, so shall you reap"   Simple answers, I am sure we all know about it but sometimes how we are on giving of ourselves, our time, our service, and especially our money are areas to work on.   "What is real giving?" Two answers:   I believe it is when there are no explanations about it, no excuses, no side-comments,  no justifications just 100% offering of self, money, time and service; AND when one does not expect anything in return at all!  Let's all strive for real giving EVERYDAY.    Our RESULTS: We will fall in love with ourselves, our lives a...

C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/ C a T c H   m y   T h O u G h T s ! (I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to this scenario...)   SCENARIO A friend confronts you and tells you that according to PEOPLE  you are like this (NEGATIVE 1) and like that (NEGATIVE 2), how will you respond?   ANSWER My response will be to ask, “What about you, do you feel the same way?”  This way we can start a conversation, we can communicate. " Let me know you, let me know your thoughts about me…  Let us not talk about what OTHERS are saying about me…  let’s just talk about you and me".  This way, we can settle whatever differences we have and work on our relationship. I’ve learned early in life that I will never ever be able to please everyone;  there will always be people saying something good and something bad about me, not that they don’t matter becaus...